totally agree.I've historically always opted for the top trim and best performance possible. But after driving both the LR and P, I just couldn't justify the extra $8-$10k increase. This is always a big factor for me in that I have to feel it's "worth" the price, as I was already crossing shopping vehicles that cost much more. The Model 3, on the other hand, had a close pricer gap and handled much more like a vehicle that could really benefit from the extra performance, especially around a corner.
The extra weight of the Y makes it feel like it's the happiest cruising versus treating it like a track car. Unless you are indeed planning on hammering the throttle on a regular basis, and killing your range, the LR is definitely the best choice for most people. You save money, get better range, better ride, less expensive tires, and a bit more side-wall.
Now, if are going to a track (or driving like you are on one) the extra power, bigger brakes, wider rear tire, lower-profile tires, and lower suspension would certainly be beneficial. Although regardless, it is still a steep price that is padding Tesla's bottom line than anything else. For everybody else, Performance upgrades would be mostly negative.
At the end of the day, it's your money, your choice, and I wouldn't hold it against anybody for going one way or the other. But don't let the millions of sensational YouTube videos influence you too much. The 0-60 blasts are great, lots of fun, but for most of us, are nothing more than an expensive party trick. Just ask yourself, what do you really want and need from your EV? Make your choice, enjoy it, and don't look back.
The other thing I find? Is that without the sensory affects associated with exhaust sounds, engine revs, supercharger whine, gear shift slambacks? I find myself RARELY using full accelerator launches at all. There is lack of sensory reward to the brain I guess. I do often use the acceleration for passing, merging, quickly getting over to that far left or far right lane for a last minute turn, etc. But even then? Its typically 3/4 throttle at most and thats more than enough to blow by..everyone.
To me, the cost for performance over long range is similiar to cost of FSD over AP. Nice to have? Sure. But generally speaking, a terrible value at the current price points.