Catching up here. A few thoughts:
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I'm still super excited for the Model Y. The profitability of the company and acceleration of the mission supersede my potential annoyance with these issues. Our obsessing over these issues is not representative of the vast majority of owners. My 2 cents.
I agree with your last sentence. Support the company. That's one reason I don't care about things like Homelink as well. My wife was surprised I had her schedule to have it installed as soon as we picked up her model 3, I am notoriously cheap so she figured she'd just be doing the clicker on the visor bit. But I figure if it helps keep Tesla on the map, kicking these old guard, has been car companies in the butt, then here's your $300 for homelink. I also don't care about the $100 order "fee".
Its also been interesting to see how different the needs are for every buyer, its easy to kind of fall into thinking that whatever you think is important is important to everyone, when it isn't. Its like every consumer product, really.. there isn't some "one brand/model to rule them all". Different strokes for different folks.
I am continually surprised that Tesla falling into the "premium car" category causes some people to consider going back to ICE because Model 3 / Y isn't exactly up to snuff in that regard (debatable, I guess, but I've owned quite a few high end BMWs and I think Tesla falls short there). I would never go back to ICE over something like that. But, if you just want a nice car or a fast car and "how it works" doesn't matter to you, then I guess that's an option.
Returning to "being super excited for the Model Y", I also agree. What I am looking for from Tesla is greatly simplified mechanicals vs ICE, greatly simplified interior, potentially exceptional vehicle longevity, electric drive and one pedal driving. I don't care about self driving, or that the car is super fast or that it is luxurious or that it is super quiet or it has super futuristic gadgetry like auto leveling / road following space headlights or auto presenting door handles or EVEN DOORS. Not only does the Y already fit the bill for all of that on paper, but nobody but Tesla offers this "package" right now .. so the choice is pretty slam dunk. Beyond that, with AWD and the hatch and now a heat pump, I even dare to think that the Model Y will be a forever car.