It will come. Make sure to put the car on your home wifi (assuming you have home wifi, which I would imagine almost 100% of tesla owners would have at this point.
They wont do anything if you call them to push it or anything. It WILL come, but there is no controlling when it does. As an example, I picked up my car 12/04. I had 42.9 and there was an update pending as soon as I got home. The update took me to 46.2 the evening of 12/04. When they started rolling out 48.1 I thought I might get it "soon" because I got the 46.2 so soon after release. No dice. I actually didnt get 48.1 at all, I got 48.12.1, and got it after everyone here was saying "i got it" to the 48.1
TL ; DR version (too long ; didnt read), No need to call tesla on the update, it will come. Put it on wifi to ensure it can download. It will show up in the car AND in the app, and can be triggered from the app when its available. On the doors, its "likely" the rubber gaskets being stiff because of colder weather. Mine have loosened up a bit, but I still have to close the doors harder than I am used to from my BMW.
Congratulations btw! enjoy the drive