I simply bought a dryer buddy for 150$, plugged in the 10-30 to the wall, the dryer into the 10-30 port and the M3 into the 14-50 socket on the dryer buddy and it charges fine.
Something is not adding up there at all. I think you are mixing up the outlet names. Is your Dryer Buddy actually a 10-30 and 14-30? The Tesla charge cable uses a resistor inside the particular adapter it has attached to tell it how many amps to use. If you are using a 14-30 plug, then the car will know to only use 24A. If you are using a Tesla 14-50 plug, as you said, it would have no way at all to know that it should only use 24A.And yet, the TMC with that plug seems to only draw the 24A one would expect. It's not throttled by changing the max charging rate either?
Could it be that the UMC is more intelligent than we think?