I don't think the phantom braking you're describing is related to NoA - did it actually improve after you turned it off? The issue seems to be a combination of:
- "Fleet Speed" - a sounds-good-in-theory-until-you-try it feature where Tesla seems to collect data from other cars and their average speed, theoretically to detect where people naturally slow down before sharp curves, etc. In practice it seems to react to "There's always traffic here so people slow down, so I'm going to slam on the brakes even though the road is clear now"
- Bad speed limit info, with disagreement over whether it's from OpenStreetMap or Google. You'd see this by TACC changing the set speed.
- Imprecise lane detection, with the car believing you're actually in the exit ramp lane. May or may not see this in the TACC display, but I suspect it triggers one of the first two items - either it thinks you're in an off ramp with a lower speed limit, or the Fleet Speed data is imprecise so it's trying to slow down as others who took the ramp did.
I have noticed that AutoStreet does a slightly better job in 40.1.1 at not swerving wildly into and out of merge lanes when the lane lines disappear. It was actually reasonable enough that I left autosteer on when I was in the right lane and dealt with the occasional slight drifting rather than the old behavior which was to immediately dart to the right as though it was cutting off whoever might be trying to merge in.