Sorry to hear it's putting you off the purchase. I'm in the camp that really enjoys the aggressive regen for 1-pedal driving, but I can sympathize. One note though - you should be able to modulate how much deceleration the passengers sense by adjusting how much you're backing off the "gas" pedal. Not a perfect solution for you, and I'm shocked they took away the option to minimize the regen, but something you could try out.
Thanks.. sounds a little annoying.. I wonder if a software update is coming.Nope. All new Teslas are like this, non regen settings.
I've adapted to the standard regen and kind of like it but my wifey will hate it, she keeps her Y on low.