I live in a semi-rural area where all the connecting roads are 2-lane highways too. I get what you're saying.You don't likely live in an area where 2 lane non-divided highways are the only available roads.
I am learning that purchasing my model Y was a mistake as it lacks a usable cruise control on 2 lane highways with on coming traffic. I have had my model Y for 2 weeks.
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Right now I am leaning toward selling the car once I get the title in the mail. I otherwise love the car, but I paid a lot for a car that is lacking such a basic feature that has been commonplace since the 1980s.
My perspective is a little longer, since I drove the former Autopilot Convenience Feature on a HW1 Model S, Enhanced Autopilot with the NVIDIA HW 2.5 computer on a 2018 Model 3, EAP on HW 3 with radar and now the FSD Beta on vision only.
What I can say is that phantom braking is not an inherent flaw in the product, but rather a software version related one; that is, not all versions of HW 3 Autopilot/FSD have the problem, and not all have it to the same degree. I don't know why phantom braking occurs, but I know that it hasn't been a problem in some firmware releases. It gets better and it gets worse. Now it's worse.
I'm just saying that it is very unlikely that you're stuck with the problem over the long term.
And I would remind you that if you had a car with 1980's cruise control, you wouldn't have phantom braking, or real braking either. That old car would just run into the back of slower traffic without hesitation.