Just so we're clear, is the following not your understanding?
- Approach stop-sign, release the accelerator, regen kicks-in and brake lights come on. No foot on any pedal at this point.
- Eventually, car's deceleration will be low enough that the brake lights will turn off while still rolling towards intersection
- You step on the brake pedal to engage mechanical friction brakes and bring the car to a stop. Brake lights always come on when your foot is on the brake pedal
- You release the brake pedal, and the brake lights turn off (because you're not on the friction brakes, and regen at a standstill is non-existent
The above is the way it has always worked in every Tesla production vehicle and on every firmware version ever. If not, your car is broken, or I need to go out and re-check mine on 7.0. But I'm pretty sure I would've noticed something so glaringly obvious.