I think the best suggestions in the above thread are:
1) add some weight to the car "so it doesn't ride like an empty pickup truck." I suggest trying 50-100 lbs in the frunk and 100-200 lbs in the trunk lower compartment. If sand bags or water softener salt does the trick, you could replace them with steel plates of the same weight to take up less cargo space.
2) lower tire air pressure. Check the tire manufacturer recommendations to see how low you can go and still carry the load.
3) give the suspension and tires 1-2,000 miles to break in. (and give yourself some time to adapt to the 3)
4) If you can find tires that are rated with a significantly softer ride than the factory 18" Michelins, try them out (and sell your factory tires).
5) Another suggestion would be to see if 17" aftermarket wheels will clear the brake rotors on the 3. Tire Rack is a good resource to find out, but they may need more time to get info on the 3. If 17's fit, you could get a softer tire than for the 18" wheels.
Good Luck,
GSP